Now that school is back in session, I hear a lot of parents asking what’s up with my child? Is it a phase? Ugh! Kids are still reaching new milestones all the time, and I’ll get to what those are shortly.
But I think we, as parents especially, forget that there is still so much going on for our children socially, cognitively, and physically. In the early years, we see infants and toddlers grow so quickly and reach new milestones often. It’s easy to forget that our 6 years olds are meeting them too. And just like with toddlers, it’s scary to grow and learn. When a child is struggling with autonomy, for instance. The push-pull relationship between a child and caregiver/parent is something I’m sure you all remember: “carry me, I can do it. Help me, I did it”. So it’s only natural that our 1st grader will give us some of that action as well.
So here’s a little list of some of the things going on for your elementary schoolers. Remember that becoming more independent and skilled can lead to some angst, but your kids still need your patience and understanding, even if it seems like they hate you. Besides, I always say if they hate you, you’re doing it right!
Social: easy separation from adults, turn taking
Cognitive: re-telling a story, self-regulation
Physical: run, climb, skip
Social: seeing the point of view of others
Cognitive: seeing patterns in words, numbers, and the world around
Physical: greater muscle development, increased stamina
Social: judging own strengths and weaknesses , offering opinion that contradicts peers
Cognitive: understanding concept of money, mental math
Physical: knowing your own body, increased ability for repetition
Social: group work, independent work, peer pressure awareness
Cognitive: more abstract thinking, apply ideas across situations
Physical: overall fitness and health awareness, ability to assess gross and fine motor skills